Satisfying – Sex and the Pretty

Innacurate title really. I’m not feeling particularly pretty and I’m not getting any sex. Still…should ramp up the stats a little.

First though, an aside. I lvoe my blog surfer, occasionally I find someone on there who I can’t remember putting in there. Brightfeather is one of these, I can’t remember what made me add her to the list, but she’s there, and then the other day she got me thinking. My initial thoughts are in the comments over there. And I’ll expand them here…a little. Though I shouldn’t, because at the moment I’m turning into a horny little goat with little chance of the things I’m talking about.

Anyway, lets try and keep this academic (ha).

Basically, I think there’s some interesting gender inequalities (also known as generalisations) regarding the experience of sexual satisfaction and desire. I think that guys are expected to be rather simplistic. Now, I have no doubt that the female orgasm is harder to achieve than the male orgasm. But that’s not really the point, and that’s what a lot of people forget.

Put simply, foreplay is seen by many as a method of getting the woman close enough to orgasm that she gets to enjoy the penetrative part of the whole experience. Now, that’s a massive simplification, but a lot of people are like that, or at least seem to have that attitude.

Now lets get some preconceptions right out of the window.

For a start, I know for me, and I expect for a lot of other guys, the orgasm part of the whole thing is just the full stop at the end of the final sentence of the whole experience. It’s satisfying, but it’s how you get there that counts.

Now this means I want to spend a lot of time fooling around doing everything else. Now whether or not I’m giving or recieving (or ideally reciprocating) whatever exploration, manipulation or…well…whatever isn’t the matter. There’s so much going on as you explore (explore is probably the best word) each other’s bodies. So much to try and to feel and to see and to touch. Take your damn time, both of you. Don’t rush things and take pleasure in that time being taken.

One of the great things about sex is that it’s a learning experience. Any new partner is an entirely new territory, and an entirely new explorer. The map is redrawn every time, and these things only get better as you find new routes, landmarks and vistas to enjoy.

I always find metaphorical descriptions of sex hilarious. But there’s something there I think.

So remember that people are people and therefore entirely different to each other.  But at the same time the only way you get to learn those differences is through experimentation and communication.

Much like life.

Look around you, see how things work, try things out, talk about it, and enjoy yourself. And others.

Respect y’all.

Anwyay, that’s a couple of thoughts, where’s yours? Who’s brave enough to comment on their attitudes to sex?